What you can do

Even when people are offering their help constantly, it’s not easy to ask. We appreciate every single offer more than you can imagine. This page is for us to put down ideas, so we’ll know what to say when people offer.

  1. Help us keep our spirits up by telling us a really funny story or something like that.
  2. Keep us company. Talk to either of us and let us talk.
  3. Send us cards and flowers. I love all flowers and even really appreciate flowers gathered from your yard!
  4. Be cautious about what sort of “medical advice” or opinions on cancer that you offer us. Don’t be offended if we reject your medical advice. We are being bombarded with every theory about cancer that has ever been written, thought or dreamed. It’s a little much.
  5. Be available to drive me to appointments.
  6. Keep offering help until we accept it. 😉
  7. Bring us healthy food.
  8. Come over and help me garden.
  9. Visit.
  10. Don’t freak out if we don’t return phone calls or e-mails. Just try to contact us again. You won’t bother us. We will turn off the phone or ignore e-mail when needed.
  11. When you tell me something, like your phone number, don’t be afraid to tell me 40 more times. I am forgetting everything and accidentally deleting e-mails I intended to keep. It’s all just very overwhelming and your patience is appreciated.
  12. Keep us in your thoughts and prayers.

Author: rosie

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  1. Rosalie,
    This is Kathy’s Mom who remembers you from St.Margaret Mary’s and St. Patrick’s schools in Terre Haute. Mary Kempf called me to ask for prayers for you. You are being prayed for by everyone on the email prayerline at St. Mary’s Parish in Holliston, MA. We wish the best for you.

    Helen O’Neill

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  2. Oh my gosh! Holliston is right next door to me! I even lived there for three years before moving to Ashland. What a small world!

    Rosie, I’m thinking about you all the time, and sending all the good thoughts and healing energy I can. Please let me know if there’s anything else I can do from here, whether it’s sending funny e-mails or helping with your workload. You know I’m glad to help.


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  3. Hi Rosie,

    I know I don’t know you well, I know you only from WD, but have been thinking a lot about you lately and praying for you and your family.

    I am so far away in Maine that I’m afraid logistically I cannot do much for you physically, but hope that our thoughts and prayers will help in some small way.

    Warm thoughts and {{hugs}} your way,
    Sue Totman

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