Colleen & Papaw

Troy again. Colleen and I have talked about dying a lot lately. We’ve tried to let her lead the discussions and she’s had lots of questions as of late.

She watched The Land Before Time the other day, and the little dinosuar’s mom dies near the beginning. He gets to talk to her a little as she lay dying, and she tells him to be strong and that, in a way, she will always be with him. After she dies, he then runs into another wise old dinosaur who tells him that his mom lives on in him every time he thinks of her, and remembers how much he loves her, and especially when he follows her advice and does all the things she taught him how to do. Colleen had a lot of questions about that. We discussed several topics, like the fact that most people die when they are very old, but sometimes accidents happen and people die sooner. We also agreed that it was nice that the boy dinosaur had time to talk to his mom a little before she died… sometimes people die unexpectedly and we don’t get to talk to them. We had a good talk and I think she felt better about it all. It always surprises me that I cry when we talk about it. From a developmental standpoint, I think it’s good for her to see me cry… or at least I keep telling myself that.

And we heard from my Mom that Colleen visited with Russ yesterday. Colleen has been staying in Terre Haute with Rosie’s parents (thank you so much) and as usual, made an afternoon visit to Mamaw’s house. Apparently, unlike last weekend when we were there, this time Colleen specifically asked to see Papaw. My mom took her in and Colleen told him that she loved him. He’s too weak to talk now, but my mom said his eyes lit up with recognition. Colleen then told him, very matter-of-factly, “I know you are dying, because you’re so old.” Mom said that Russ’ face lit up. He has always loved Colleen’s precociousness and her wild comments. Rosie was horrified when she heard what Colleen had said, but I know in my heart that Russ got a big kick out of it.

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  1. Biff my friend, I wish I wasn’t in Chicago. I wish I could be there helping you through this. I’m feeling up to doing it too!
    Hold on to faith- believe! Yes, it is rough, but no one knows what God’s plans are.
    I remember last summer being over medicated and staying in bed and having everyone do everything for me. I hated it and I’m sure Rosie is fustrated in her own way. But that is the way it has to be right now. I know now that if I just let go and accepted it last summer it would have been a lot easier, but hindsight is always 20 20.
    We are here for you guys. I can come down for a weekend if you need me. But you need to ask.
    We believe in you two- don’t give up no matter what.


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